Most of you have been asked this question most of life: are you a top or bottom? The next writings are summarized to my understanding. Some people think in order to be a bottom, you must be the effeminate partner.
Well, most of you know that I like ’em skinny jeans and somewhat fitted clothes. So does that make me effeminate and does that determine my sexual preference?
That isn’t always the case. A persons preference for topping and bottoming is most often determined by which they get more pleasure from, not how they act outside the bedroom. I don’t like the labels top-bottom and I know others prefer a more loose interpretation of their sexual roles.
So just know, being top don’t make you the man in the relationship and so it goes if you are bottom it don’t make you the ‘girl’.
And I believe that a “man/woman” style of gayness is sexist and it don’t belong in a gay relationship because we are not straight.